CreativeChild RSS Feed TorahLine Game for Passover <p class="p1"><span class="s1">What are you doing to make your Passover more fun this year?</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;As the father of four kids, I was looking for a way to make learning the Passover just as fun as playing a video game or watching a movie,&rdquo; says Akiva Coughlin, Founder,&nbsp;613&nbsp;Games. &ldquo;To appeal to kids&rsquo; short attention spans, I knew I had to create something captivating, quick, and visual to help kids learn the events from the Exodus.&rdquo;</span><span class="s1"><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="" alt="" width="200" height="192" /></span><span class="s1">The TorahLine game provides fun learning in a quick 15-minute game format.&nbsp;As you play the game you naturally read verses and put them in order. You learn the narrative without even trying. Each game is packed with 100 cards, 54 tokens, 6 overview cards, and over 10 different ways to play. This provides hours of fun for ages eight and up. The Exodus from Egypt version covers the events from the enslavement in Egypt to the 10 plagues to the first Passover to the eventual freedom from Egypt.</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">Learn more about the TorahLine game for Passover at&nbsp;<span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href=";utm_medium=facebook-post&amp;utm_campaign=passover-march-2021"><span class="s2"></span></a></strong></span>.</span></p> Thu, 25 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Personalized Stationery and Kindness Gifts <p class="p1"><span class="s1">Products created by Laura Kelly are inspiring and uplifting. Whether you have her designs on notes, stickers or in books -- they are sure to empower and create&nbsp; a bunch of happiness.&nbsp; </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">From memo pads and note cards to vinyl stickers, ChattySnaps and Kindness books -- she has you covered for the perfect gift.&nbsp; Her designs are timeless and great for kids, moms, teachers and friends.&nbsp;The stationery and memo pads designed by Laura Kelly are adorable, whimsical&nbsp;and can be totally personalized. </span><span class="s1">The products are printed on high quality papers and come wrapped in ribbons making them perfect gifts. </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">Save 25% on all stationery items with the code CREATIVE2021 on <span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="" target="_blank">Shop Laura Kelly</a></strong></span>.</span></p> Thu, 18 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0800 BE YOU with Incognito by Prevail <div class="page" title="Page 10"> <div class="layoutArea"> <div class="column"> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It&rsquo;s common for women to start experiencing bladder leaks during pregnancy and after childbirth. 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All Incognito</span><sup><span style="font-weight: 400;">&reg;</span></sup><span style="font-weight: 400;"> products are 100% breathable, hypoallergenic and free from dyes and harsh ingredients.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Be mom ready and BE YOU when life&rsquo;s leaks get in the way!</span></p> <div class="page" title="Page 10"><strong>REQUEST FREE SAMPLES AT <span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href=";utm_medium=magazine&amp;utm_name=incognito" target="_blank">PREVAIL.COM</a></span></strong></div> <div class="page" title="Page 10">&nbsp;</div> </div> </div> </div> Wed, 10 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Routines and Habits to Boost Your Child’s Creativity <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Creativity makes life fulfilling. Creative people are happier, more confident, and solve problems better than non-creative people. In child development, creativity plays an important role by helping children cope with and express their feelings as well as growing critical thinking skills and fostering cognitive and social development.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>##ad##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As parents, we can help our children develop routines and habits that will boost their creativity. Below are 4 such routines to incorporate into your child&rsquo;s daily life that will make him more imaginative, expressive, creative, and fulfilled.&nbsp;</span></p> <p><strong>Moving meditation.&nbsp;</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Most kids can&rsquo;t sit still long enough to meditate. Here&rsquo;s the good news: They don&rsquo;t have to! Teach your child how to make moving meditation a part of their daily routines, preferably first thing in the morning. Research</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">1 </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">shows that </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">open monitoring meditation </span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">is best for improving creative thinking. To teach open monitoring meditation to your child, simply instruct them to bring awareness to their senses. Talk about the sensation of the carpet beneath their feet or the smell of breakfast cooking. Ask them to pay attention to the way the toothbrush feels and the tart taste of their orange juice. Bringing awareness to thoughts and feelings is also a type of open monitoring meditation. This is simply observing one&rsquo;s thoughts without judgement and noticing the feelings that arise. This is a good practice for older children to add into their daily routines and has been shown to boost cognitive thinking and creative skills.</span></p> <p><strong>Read</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Neuroscientists at Emory University</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">2</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> found that reading fiction enhances connectivity in the brain and improves brain function. In fact, they detected changes in brain days after reading a novel, so the benefits linger well past when your child closes the book! Regular reading improves brain function and boosts imagination because as we read, we literally create a new world in our minds. When your child uses their imagination like this, it engages their right brain - their creative mind. The key is that they need to be engrossed in the book, so help your child find a genre or author they love. Reading aloud to your child has many benefits as well, such as stronger emotional connection, improved listening skills, improved vocabulary and comprehension, as well as boosting information processing skills. Therefore, make sure reading together is part of your daily routine!</span></p> Thu, 04 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Creative Valentine’s Day Ideas for Kids During a Pandemic <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Love is in the air. Unfortunately, so is COVID-19. We&rsquo;re still rolling with the punches and learning to live and love creatively in this new world of ours, and so I&rsquo;ve gathered up some creative ways to celebrate Valentine&rsquo;s Day. You&rsquo;ll find cute crafts, fun games, and great activities to make this holiday a special one for your child.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>##ad##<br /><br /></p> <p><strong>Virtual Valentines</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Because so many kids are still remote learning, class may be cancelled, and with it, the party. That means no sweet treats or handwritten cards, but there are still fun ways for your child to send love to their friends virtually. One fun idea is to have your child draw a Valentine&rsquo;s card for his or her friends, take a picture of it, and forward it to all the group chats they&rsquo;re in. They could also share funny Valentine&rsquo;s Day memes with their friends or send out ecards. If 2020 taught us anything, it&rsquo;s how to Zoom, so you might consider a Zoom party complete with party games like </span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">these</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;">. You can even design your own custom Valentine Zoom </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">background</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><strong>Get Crafting</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">While everyone is spending lots of time at home, it&rsquo;s the perfect time to create cute and awesome crafts with your kiddos. Everyone is obsessed with Baby Yoda, so check out </span><a href=""><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;">this super cute Valentine</span></strong>.</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> If you have cardstock, print out <strong><span style="color: #0000ff;">t</span></strong></span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">his template of an adorable headband</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> for your child to decorate and wear. I adore </span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">these origami heart bookmarks</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> and they would make great gifts to put in the mail! For toddlers, </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">handprint hearts</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> are always fun and </span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">photo wreaths</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> are simple and cute! Being creative with your child is a wonderful way to relieve anxiety and connect with them, so have fun crafting!</span></p> <p><strong>Parent/Child Date Night</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When is the last time you took one child out for some quality time? With the usual crazy schedules of a family, it&rsquo;s tough, but since COVID has slowed things down, maybe you can fit it in this Valentine&rsquo;s Day. Treat your son or daughter to a fancy dinner date and a movie. Try skating or a cooking class. Make pottery or go horseback riding. Visit a museum or go on a hike. Don&rsquo;t discuss school work or those undone chores. Just enjoy one another&rsquo;s company and laugh a lot!</span></p> <p><strong>Game Night</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Have a blast with a Valentine themed game night with your family and friends. </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">Happiness is Homemade has put together a list of 30 games</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> like &ldquo;pin the lips on Mrs. Valentine.&rdquo; If you&rsquo;re looking for more physically active games, try Cupid Says (like Simon Says), Minute to Win It games such as stacking conversation hearts, or wrap one another in red streamers like a mummy and see who is the fastest!&nbsp;</span></p> <p><strong>Valentine&rsquo;s Day Science Experiments</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When you think of Valentine&rsquo;s Day, science experiments are probably the last things to come to mind, but this is where the creativity comes in! </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">Little Bins for Little Hands has a great list of science experiments</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> with a Valentine theme. Grow </span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">crystal hearts</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> overnight, make &ldquo;</span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">valen-slime</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">,&rdquo; or make a </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">heart lava lamp!</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Red Ted Art has compiled even more great science activities, including making a love potion! Check those out </span><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">here</a></span></strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">. These are the perfect compliment to your child&rsquo;s homeschooling and a creative way to celebrate the holiday.</span></p> Thu, 04 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Top Products for Soothing Baby During Flu Season <p>What to do when baby is sick, or suffers from respiratory infections? Seasonal allergies and germs can be picked up from daycare and school age siblings. According to the CDC, flu activity commonly peaks between December and February. However, seasonal flu activity can begin as early as October and continue into late May. And depending on what region you live in, the seasonal changes can affect baby year-round! So, what are parents looking for on store shelves to soothe baby during this time of the year?</p> <p><strong>Products for Soothing Baby During Cold and Flu Season:</strong></p> <p><strong>Humidifiers&nbsp;</strong>- These provide relief for a cold and flu and can increase air moisture. Use a cool mist humidifier&nbsp;for easier breathing and a good night&rsquo;s sleep. Humidifiers are also a great remedy for allergy or asthma sufferers.</p> <p>The Duffy &amp; Shanley, <span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">Motorola Smart Nursery Humidifier +</a></strong></span> helps baby breathe easy and sleep soundly. This connected humidifier can be controlled with the Hubble app for smartphones, tablets, and computers. It increases the moisture in a baby&rsquo;s nursery with four levels of cool mist di union with three programmable intervals.</p> <p><strong>Bottle Medicine Dispenser &ndash; </strong>One of the best ways to ensure that your child gets the right amount of medicine is to use the right tool. These devices provide an easy way to give medicine in a familiar way, and are specifically designed to help you measure and administer the right dose. To use just remove the top, fill to desired dosage and snap the top back on. It's as easy as 1-2-3.</p> <p>Stephan Baby <strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="" target="_blank">Mini Medicine Bottles</a></span></strong> holds up to 3tsp of baby&rsquo;s liquid medicine with no spill, and therefore no wasted medicine. The bottles are great for parents and babies on the go. They are ideal for mixing with juice or formula, and best of all the bottles are dishwasher safe.</p> <p><strong>Baby Bottle Sanitizers &ndash; </strong>Sanitizing is so important to every parent, especially because baby immune systems are so delicate. Germs are everywhere and keeping baby safe can seem like a confusing juggling act. Parents want to do everything possible to ensure that baby's developing immune system has adequate time to become as strong and resilient as it can be.</p> <p>Raising the bar on baby bottle electric sterilizer products, <strong><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">UviCube</a></span></strong> is the newest and easiest way to keep the things baby loves away from germs. It is the first of its kind in the U.S. market, to dry, store and eliminate 99.9% of bacteria on surfaces exposed to UV light on items such as baby bottles, bottle nipples and pacifiers, but can also sanitize electronics, mobile phones, toys and other items.</p> <p>&nbsp;<em>All content, including medical opinion and any other health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Use of this site and the information contained herein does not create a doctor-patient relationship. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.</em></p> Thu, 28 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800 The Important Power of Self-Control in Parenting <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">How often do you demand that your children have skills that you lack even as an adult? How many times have you displayed the very behavior that you correct in your child? These are fair questions, yet the answers can stop you in your tracks, because if we are all honest with ourselves, we all have a bit of growing up to do.&nbsp;</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I can&rsquo;t count the number of times I said I would stick to a diet or exercise routine only to fall off the wagon days or weeks in. I couldn&rsquo;t tell you how many times I have raised my voice after promising to stay calm. I tend to give myself a lot of grace. I&rsquo;m only human, after all. Life can be difficult, and I&rsquo;m doing the best I can. Yet, when my kid loses his cool and yells at me, am I so quick to offer that same grace?</span></p> <p>##ad##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Have you ever fought with your partner in front of your child but then demanded she get along with her siblings peacefully? Or snatched a toy from a child&rsquo;s hands in frustration after lecturing him that he shouldn&rsquo;t snatch toys? Of course, because we have all done things like that, and it&rsquo;s okay. Mistakes are a part of life. But the biggest challenge in parenting, and in child discipline is not figuring out the right punishments or consequences, but it is learning to model what we want to see. It&rsquo;s learning self-discipline so that we can teach our children self-discipline. After all, the goal is to raise children who govern their own behavior so that we don&rsquo;t have to spend our days and years together policing them but rather enjoying life with one another.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In her book, </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline,</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;"> author Becky Bailey says this, &ldquo;All parents demonstrate or model a code of conduct and a value system. This is done through their day-to-day interactions with others. Until we become conscious of these patterns of interactions, we will not be able to guide the morality of the next generation. Most of us model respect when we are calm and when life is going our way. However, what happens to our values when we are stressed and life becomes complicated? How do we behave when traffic is backed up, when our children forget their permission slips, when our spouse fails to stop by the grocery store again? What happens to treating each other with respect during these times?&rdquo; It is easy to love our children and others when they&rsquo;re doing what we want, but how we love and behave during challenging times sets the standard. The question is, how can we improve ourselves?</span></p> <p>##adbig##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Step One: Become Conscious of Your Patterns</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"><br /></span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The first step to any real change is always to become aware of the patterns you are wanting to change. Most of us make unconscious decisions all day long. We emulate the patterns our parents modeled for us, or we just let our reactions fly, making no attempt to rein them in. Start paying attention to your reactions, behaviors, and the feelings that drive them. When do you lose your cool? When do you behave badly? What causes you to feel out of control? Take note of the thoughts and feelings that arise during those times. You can&rsquo;t change yourself until you really know yourself, so get to know your patterns.</span></p> Tue, 19 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Two Ways to Thwart Attention-Seeking Behavior <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After all the time and effort we put into parenting, you&rsquo;d think our children would know how loved they are. You&rsquo;d think they wouldn&rsquo;t have any need for more attention. After all, don&rsquo;t we give them attention constantly?! The answer is probably yes, but the deeper question is what kind of attention are we giving? The kind that makes them feel joyfully loved or the kind that makes them feel like a nuisance we must tolerate or another chore to check off. Ooof, harsh, right? But think about your typical daily interactions lately and do an honest inventory of how many of those really communicate &ldquo;I enjoy you.&rdquo;</span></p> <p>##ad##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we&rsquo;re giving negative attention or no attention at all, kids begin to starve for belonging and connection. They will take a negative connection over no connection at all, so they begin to resort to behavior they know will elicit a reaction from you. They may get a big response from you when you yell or scold them, but even that negative response is a reward because they were noticed and therefore a connection was made. Unfortunately, this makes them more likely to repeat that negative behavior again, and a cycle ensues that nobody enjoys. Rather than fueling the negative cycle, you can use these two simple ways to connect and make them feel loved, thereby ending the need to seek out your attention in negative ways.&nbsp;</span></p> <p><strong>Joy-Filled Connection</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">All children want to be enjoyed, not just </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">tolerated</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">. Are your interactions upbeat, positive, joy-filled, warm, loving, and fun? Or are you merely displaying patience? Are you being silly? Are you laughing and smiling a lot? Joyful interactions communicate &ldquo;I&rsquo;m having fun with you! I love being with you!&rdquo; When you&rsquo;re having a great time with your kids, they feel that needed sense of belonging, and it fills their cups to the brim. It doesn&rsquo;t take hours a day to have fun. You can add in quick daily rituals and habits that speak love. Here are 10 ideas for quick connection:</span></p> <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Tell a joke.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Make up a silly rhyme about them.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Show loving affection - a hug, high five, fist bump, or a head rub.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Unplug and give them your total attention for a few minutes. Listen.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Dance with them.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Celebrate them for no reason at all with cake and balloons.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Leave a love note on their pillow.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Smile when you look at them.&nbsp;</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Send a sweet or funny text.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Share YouTube or TikTok videos with your older kids.</span></li> </ol> <p>##adbig##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Of course, it&rsquo;s always worth a mention to make sure you&rsquo;re taking care of yourself. It&rsquo;s hard to show up with joy if you&rsquo;re bone tired and irritated. We hear this advice constantly and yet so few moms truly heed it. Instead, we make excuses about being too busy or something, but we always make time for our priorities, so it&rsquo;s just a matter of making yourself one.</span></p> Tue, 19 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Three Important Lessons for Kids from Martin Luther King, Jr <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Martin Luther King, Jr was a civil rights leader during the 1950s and 1960s. He led non-violent protests to fight for the rights of all human beings, including African Americans. He is considered one of the great orators of modern times. His speeches are still inspiring people today. He gave his famous &ldquo;I Have a Dream&rdquo; speech in 1963 at the &ldquo;March on Washington,&rdquo; a march organized to show the importance of civil rights legislation. The march was a success and the Civil Rights Act was passed a year later in 1964. Martin Luther King, Jr lost his life on April 4, 1968 after being shot while standing on the balcony of his hotel. However, the lessons he taught us live on. Here are three lessons he taught us that we can pass on to our children.<br /></span><br />##ad##</p> <p><strong>Forgiveness is Healing</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">&ldquo;We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.&rdquo; - MLK Jr.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Forgiveness is an emotional process of letting go of hurt, anger, and resentment. So often, we teach children to merely give or accept an apology, and that&rsquo;s as far as we teach &ldquo;forgiveness,&rdquo; but it goes much deeper than a simple apology. In fact, forgiveness can occur without an apology, and that&rsquo;s also an important lesson for children to learn. They are in control of letting go of their pain regardless of what the offending party does. It may seem impossible to teach true forgiveness to a still developing mind, but </span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="">research</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> shows that children who are taught forgiveness skills have better relationships, improve their academic performance, and are happier overall. But how can we teach children to forgive?&nbsp;</span></p> <p>##adbig##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are 5</span><span style="color: #0000ff;"><strong><a style="color: #0000ff;" href=",more%20forgiving%20toward%20their%20friends.&amp;text=If%20you're%20a%20parent,daily%E2%80%94sometimes%20hourly%E2%80%94occurrence."> simple steps for forgiveness by child development expert Maureen Healy</a></strong></span><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Acknowledge what happened. Don&rsquo;t brush it under a rug or ignore it where it can fester and grow. Instead, teach your child to acknowledge what occurred and face it.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Experience your feelings. Sitting with unpleasant feelings is, well, unpleasant. But feeling them is an important part of letting them go. Help your child to name the emotions they are feeling and then allow them the space to cry or vent to you if needed.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Communicate that you want to forgive. Now it&rsquo;s time to let those emotions wash away and to declare your intention to forgive. Stating our intentions is a powerful mental exercise.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Forgive. Let go of the pain, resentment, or anger. Do this exercise with your child: Ask them to imagine the anger or hurt going out of their body with each exhale and imagine love and forgiveness and peace coming in with each inhale. Do this for about 5 breaths or until your child feels the process is complete.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Release. The anger and hurt is now gone. Let it go and move on.&nbsp;</span></li> </ol> Wed, 13 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800 Five Ways to Master Patience <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There are two types of patience that every parent can learn to master for a more joyful life - short-term patience and long-term patience. Let me explain. </span><strong>Short-term patience </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">is handling the common daily frustrations well. It&rsquo;s remaining calm when your kids are pushing boundaries and responding with love in the face of their big emotions. Long-term patience is watering a plant that hasn&rsquo;t sprouted yet. It&rsquo;s believing in a result you can&rsquo;t yet see. Short-term patience is the kind of patience we all hope for and aspire to when we become parents, and we soon learn that it isn&rsquo;t as easy as we imagined! It requires skill and practice and, even then, getting off track is easy. Have you noticed anger and frustration creeping up on you?&nbsp; Many parents are facing these common symptoms of physical and emotional fatigue after months of dealing with this pandemic and all the chaos it has sown with job loss, schooling at home, sick family and friends, and anxious or bored kids.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>##ad##</p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The end of the year is the perfect time to get ourselves back on track as we head into 2021 with a fresh new mindset and a recommitment to positive parenting. Here are three ways to master your short-term patience.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <ul> <li><strong><strong>See past the behavior to the person. </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">This is really the key to growing patience with children. Behavior is communication. It tells us something about the child&rsquo;s thoughts, emotions, and experience. When we look at what is being communicated rather than what the behavior itself is, we instantly feel less triggered because we understand that the behavior is not about us. When we see the human being behind the action, we are moved to respond with love rather than reacting out of frustration, but this requires us to get curious. What is the behavior saying? What could my child be feeling right now that is triggering this behavior? When we practice making curiosity our first response, we can develop a habit of seeking out the root cause to heal rather than treating the symptom.&nbsp;</span></strong></li> </ul> <ul> <li><strong>Connect before you correct. </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">It&rsquo;s a common phrase in positive parenting, but of course it&rsquo;s harder to practice than to preach. We have to get good at managing our own emotions before we are truly able to do this, so working on our own e</span><a href=""><span style="font-weight: 400;">motional intelligence</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> is essential to being able to connect before we correct. Once we do that, though, it looks like empathizing while still holding boundaries. It&rsquo;s offering warmth alongside strength. It&rsquo;s saying &ldquo;I understand how you&rsquo;re feeling but I still can&rsquo;t allow this behavior. Let me help you.&rdquo; Connection has the mutual benefit of calming both your brain and your child&rsquo;s brain, and it strengthens the relationship so that your child is more likely to listen and be cooperative in the future.&nbsp;</span></li> </ul> <p>&nbsp;</p> <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Learn a few quick calming hacks. </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">Breathing is, as you know, very grounding and calming. Of course, the problem is we don&rsquo;t think about breathing techniques when the toddler pulls over the Christmas tree. It&rsquo;s simply about creating a habit, and that takes a little practice until it becomes routine, so start small. Breathe in for a count of 8, hold for a count of 7, breathe out for a count of 8. Repeat until you feel calm. If that doesn&rsquo;t work for you, try a quick burst of movement. Jumping jacks or push ups will release the adrenaline and help you calm down. I don&rsquo;t recommend this technique in aisle A4 but if you&rsquo;re at home, go for it. Splash your face with water if those fail or recite a short poem or favorite quote. Place your hand over your heart and repeat a mantra, press the third eye area, or try EFT.&nbsp;</span></li> </ol> <p><strong>Long-term patience</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;"> requires zooming out to look at the bigger picture. It&rsquo;s waiting expectantly with love and hope. It&rsquo;s sowing seeds and believing that they&rsquo;ll take root, so you water them every day, even when you don&rsquo;t see any changes. Long-term patience requires staying the course and trusting that the little things you&rsquo;re doing each day will make a difference in the long run. Here are two powerful ways to master long-term patience.&nbsp;</span></p> <ol> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Invest in the relationship, not in the result. </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">The hard truth is that there are absolutely no guarantees in parenting. All we really have is love and now. So don&rsquo;t get caught up in the result or worry how everything will turn out. There&rsquo;s no point in it. Instead, love your child today the best you can and offer your loving presence in this moment. Invest in the relationship because that&rsquo;s what will help your child through the turbulent times. That&rsquo;s what will be his compass when he gets lost. We all hope for a certain outcome but we cannot control it. We ultimately have very little say in the result, but we have a lot of influence and power in the relationship, so put your focus there.&nbsp;</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Believe in the journey and the soul you&rsquo;re nurturing. </strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">Hope and faith, these are the ingredients for long-term patience. It&rsquo;s about trusting in the process of growth and maturity and believing that the love and care you&rsquo;re providing will be enough to see her through. It&rsquo;s about understanding that this soul is on a unique journey and you are here to facilitate, not control. Your job is not to make her into anything in particular but to love her as she is and to believe in the light within her. You are here to love and guide. Do those two things in this moment and trust that the rest will work out in the end.&nbsp;</span></li> </ol> Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800