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Lastly, having your child’s heart does not mean that there is never any conflict. Even a parent and child who is connected at the heart will have moments of disconnection. Troubles will still arise from time to time because such is the case when two or more imperfect humans are in relationship with one another. However, having your child’s heart does greatly improve cooperation and peace.

Below are 21 ways to reach a child’s heart.

1. Listen with the intent to understand their point of view and feelings.
2. Speak to them respectfully, even when you issue requests or correct them.
3. Believe in their goodness and tell them that you believe.
4. Put away your devices and distractions and spend time focused on them.
5. Read to them.
6. Hug them often.
7. Ask “How can I help?”
8. Correct without criticism.
9. Speak life-giving, encouraging, affirming words to them daily.
10. Play what they want to play.
11. Show them that their opinions are valuable.
12. Thank them for their contributions to the family.
13. Let them hear you speak kindly of them to others.
14. Empathize with their emotions, even the tough ones.
15. Be silly with them. Laugh a lot. Let them remember your smile.
16. Greet them warmly.
17. Allow room for mistakes.
18. Call them by a special nickname.
19. Be generous with your “yes” and confident with your “no.”
20. Tell them stories from your youth so they’ll know you better.
21. Show interest in the things they care about.

Rebecca Eanes is the bestselling author of multiple books including Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, The Positive Parenting Workbook, and The Gift of a Happy Mother. She is the grateful mom of two boys.