Tip #6: Become a Problem-Solver
I’ve said before, “Look for solutions rather than punishments. Children need to learn how to fix their mistakes, not just pay for them.” Sometimes the solution might look like a consequence (taking away a toy that keeps getting thrown or making a child earn money to pay for a broken or wasted item) but the intent behind the lesson – and the empathy that accompanies it – will mean the difference between a punishment and a solution.
The goal is to empower and encourage children to right their wrongs and fix their mistakes, and this should feel good, not bad. If it is attached to shame – “You naughty child!” – it will feel bad. If it is presented in a positive light – “Oops, mistakes happen. I know you’ll think of a fantastic way to fix this, and I’ll help you if you need me”- this facilitates learning.
Tip #7: Grace for All
Children need to be given grace while they learn and grow. Parents do, too! As you embark on this new journey, there are bound to be a few hiccups along the way. Don’t beat yourself up. Be your own gentle, encouraging friend.
Find a community that supports you (like my Facebook community), stand strong in your decision to parent positively, focus on connection and open communication, and be confident in your ability to do this!
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