If your toddler is throwing food or tossing his plate onto the floor, you can take the food away and offer something he can safely throw, like a soft ball. You can say, “You can’t throw food, but you can throw this ball! Watch it bounce!” This gives him an acceptable alternative and is a win-win for you both.
Is your toddler heading for the wall with crayons? Tape a giant sheet of drawing paper to the wall. Is she pouring water out of the tub? Head outside with a plastic bin of water and some cups for pouring. Is she refusing to pick up toys? Make it a fun game. In time her upper brain will develop and she’ll learn more self-control. Until then, reduce power struggles and make home happier for both of you by setting the necessary limits while honoring her needs.