4. Use consequences that teach.
If a consequence is necessary, aim for consequences that teach rather than just punish. I’ve written a full article explaining this in detail which you can find here.
5. Build them up.
Children who feel good about themselves will behave well. We should always be looking for the light in our children and reflecting it back to them. We want to see the good in them and help them see it, too.
Use encouraging phrases like these:
*That was so helpful. Thank you.
*You are so kind to do that.
*I’m proud of you for ___.
*I believe in you.
*I like spending time with you.
*You’re so much fun to be around!
Here are some alternative uses for your elves:
Kindness Elves by The Imagination Tree are a popular alternative.
Conscious Discipline suggests using heart-shaped glasses for your elf to see the good behaviors you want to inspire rather than the bad ones. Here’s a post on their Facebook page about it.
Happy Hooligans has 7 cute alternatives here.
Of course, you could always keep your current tradition, just ditching the tattletale part.
The 3 Toys featured in this article are:
Page 1: Elf on the Shelf
Page 2: Christopher Pop-in-Kins
Page 3: Maccabee on the Mantel
