Here’s what you need to know, mama. The rest of us are crying in our bathrooms, too. Every other mother there ever was has felt those feelings of guilt and worried if they were getting it completely wrong at one time or another, so don’t think that the rest of us are getting this motherhood thing right every day while you’re struggling to find your way.
We are all trying to find our way. None of us are perfect. Not one.
You have to stop being so hard on yourself. You have to cut the inner bully off and say “Shut up! No more!”
You have to extend to yourself the same love and tenderness and grace that you try to extend to your children because as much as they need it is as much as you need it, too.
And do you want to know a little secret? The more you treat yourself with gentleness, the more gentleness you can show others.
Make it your goal this week to shine a spotlight on your own goodness, successes, triumphs, and bravery. In your journal today, write down everything you did that was good. Write down how you made yourself proud!
And tonight, when you finally climb underneath the covers, don’t replay your mistakes in your mind. Replay how much you loved. Give yourself a little grace. Perhaps that’s the bravest thing of all.
Love,
A Mom Who Is Too Hard On Herself, Too
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